1 Get rid of the past. One of the main reasons to forgive is to leave split the past of our lives. I don’t want to say that we must forget the past, or delete it from our minds. Forgiving does not mean forgetting, it means remember without pain. All have memory, and life experiences remain engraved in it, but when we forgive, we break a chain that kept us tied to the past, freeing us from the resentment and pain, leaving the way clear for living in the present. I choose to live in the present 2 – lets leave the victim. The victim always need an aggressor, attracts it.
Leave the role of victim, is an important step to forgive. The victim is not interested in forgiving, because it would remove the reason for his lamentations. Recognize our victim is to begin to regain our power. The victim says: do by what happens to me that to me, so good that I am?, while who is connected to its power says: what should I learn from this situation?. There is a big difference in the form of focus the problem.
So that, from today begins to assert: Yo___soy a powerful person. 3. Renunciation to criticism and judgement. When we judge others, we forget completely of the divine essence which every human being carries within himself. You have compassion is not the same one that felt pity for others, that’s arrogance. Compassion is understanding that, surely the other person who committed a tort against you, probably had a very hard childhood, or has suffered some kind of abuse. We do not know the causes by which has behaved in that way and your emotional situation at the time. That does not mean that we have to agree with their actions. 4 Get rid of negative thoughts. As scientists we have 60,000 thoughts per day, and most of them focus on what they don’t want.