In the emotional field I must have my individuality to have my friends, obviously, that these do not affect nor abused the affective relationship with my partner. Many couples live conflicts by not knowing how to respect the limits of individuality in the emotional field. We all need someone other than our partner with whom we can share some important facts of our life or not. No human being fully meets the needs of the other. The couple frequently need of self-examination and self-criticism to know which areas are encompassing of the other, and on things that is not respecting the right to autonomy or to their individualization. The limits in which each one can move must demarcate. It is important to know when and what I can make decisions that will not impair the harmony of the couple.

In the economic field those limits must demarcate clearly to not make decisions unilaterally that could affect the economy of the home. For example: decisions that compromise the income of one month should be common agreement to not create trauma. Managing the economy of the home requires a great maturity to know what priorities there. In the consumer society that we move it is important to know what decisions are taken after an analysis a weighted in which must be objective, taking care to not get carried away by those emotional impulses of purchase. There are people who are compulsive buyers and their purchases end up affecting any family budget.Priorities must be set, needs to be taken and within this framework each may be autonomous to choose the kind of item, brand, style, etc., that suits.

The economic failure of the home is usually due to a mishandling of the autonomy that one of two believed to have income that contributes to the home, such as your income, feels with the right to handle them as you see fit him, forgetting that marriage is a society in which all have equal rights as members. When you have a healthy self-esteem easily we respect the rights of the other, leaving our selfishness to think more about the feelings and needs of the other. We must always reach an agreement to spend or invest the money, the decision will surely be wiser. In this decision both will exercise their autonomy. A healthy self-esteem will help so that the money is not spent only in appearances. Low self-esteem can favour the tendency to spend. Their self-esteem depends on the periphery and therefore will need to show have. Money can become the best means to manipulate our partner. When all family incomes depend only on a person, it may exercise an unfair Dominion and believe that all rights have to invest or spend the money to its accommodation. Hence the importance that each one is self-sufficient, that don’t necessarily rely on the other. If for any reason, separation, illness, death, remains without a job, personal stability and of home is should not affect in a traumatic way. And to strengthen your couple relationship based on your self-esteem, I invite you to Subscribe to the free Mini course: self-esteem from the Center to the periphery. Just click on the link below for more information on the mini course: by your inner peace, Bernardo Plata.